Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.
Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
Why is Assertiveness important?
If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:
?Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.
?Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
?Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！
But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live
with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.
How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:
?Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "
?Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"
?Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "
? Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"
?Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.
【小题1】The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.

   How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

I used to have little passion (激情) in my life. But what happened the other day changed my min. It was then that 1 learned how 　26 it is to have a passion in life.

That day 1 went home in Mom's ear. When Morn 27 at a red light, someone on the side of the road caught my eye. It was a man dressed 　 28 rags (破旧衣服). He was homeless. That didn't interest me, because I had seen 　29 like him before. Those people usually looked unhappy and hopeless.

　　 But this man was 30 in some way. He was not sitting down with a 31 expression. Instead, he had a　 32　 in his hand and was dancing happily to the music. The radio seemed to be the most precious (珍贵的) thing he had.

　 "Morn, why does that man have a radio 　33 he’s homeless?” I asked.

　 "He　 34　 it," she replied.

　 "But why doesn't he use the money to buy food or clothes? He　 35　 something that he didn't need."

　 "Well, Sarah, sometimes food and clothes aren't the most important.”

　 That man must care so much about　 36　 that he bought a radio instead of food or clothes. I soon realized that　 37　 is the key to life.

　 Since then I am always thinking of 　38　 is truly important in life. A home, a meal, clothes—these things are 39 part of the life. What we often forget is that we all need a joy, a light in a 　40 . day. We all need a passion which gives a person the happiness they need ~o keep going.

26. A. strange　　　　 B. important　　　 C. dangerous　　　 D. difficult

27. A. stopped　　 　　B. walked　　　　 C. stood　　　　　 D. exercised

28. A. in　　　　　 　B. on　　　 　　　C. at　　　　　 　D. of

29. A. none　　　　　 B. few　　 　　 C. all　　　　 　　D. many

30. A. common　　　 B. different　 　　C. polite　　　 　 D. rude

31. A. sad　　　　 　 B. nervous　 　　 C. mad　　 　　　D. happy

32. A. hat　　　　 　B. phone　 　　　 C. scarf　 　　　 D. radio

33. A. though　　　 　B. because　 　　　C. until 　　　　 D. unless

34. A. borrowed　 　 B. made　　　　　 C. fixed　　 　　 D. bought

36. A. asked for　 　 B. waited for　　 　 C. paid for　 　 D. looked for

36. A. stories　　　 　B. music　　　　　 C. news　　 　　D. languages

37. A. knowledge 　　B. health　　　　 　 C. happiness　 　 D. friendship

38. A. who　　　　 　B. what　　　　　　 C. where　　　 　D. when

39. A. only　　　　　　 B. all　　　　 　　C. also　　　 　 D. never

40. A. warm　　　　　 B. hot　　　　 　　C. dark　　　 　　D. relaxing