6．Anyone can start an argument，but it takes a strong person to stop the argument．Many people want to be the stronger person，but they often lack the know-how．If for you，the question of how to stop an argument is cooling yourself off and showing your ability to resolve conflict，follow these steps and begin the process of renewing your relationship．
Step One Take a time-out from the person and the argument．Go and get a cup of coffee，go to the bathroom or take a drive．Do whatever you can to get yourself out of the place where the argument is taking place．Remember not to leave the argument unresolved and walk away； just leave for long enough to cool off and get back together later．
Step Two Plan to finish the argument at a time when you can both be uninterrupted for 30minutes．An uninterrupted 30minutes is long enough for you both to share your feelings and discuss why you feel that way．
Step Three Think and plan during your time-out so that you're prepared for your meeting when it does take place．Keep yourself from remembering the other person's past mistakes or from making personally pointed attacks．Do this by keping your focus on the issue at hand and always coming back to that issue．
Step Four Keep the problem between the two of you．Regardless of how badly your feelings are hurt or how much you want to discuss this problem with your other friends，refrain （克制） for the sake of your friendship．Stopping an argument is hard enough with other people getting involved．
Step Five Be open and honest with one another，be willing to show your vulnerability （脆弱性） and be open to the fact that you may be wrong．No one is right all the time，and your argument is more resolvable if you keep from feeling like you have to defend your every move．
Step Six Say"I'm sorry"even if you think you're justified in what you said or did．Just hearing those words has a healing effect on every relationship，and most of the time we wound each other without being aware of it．
33．The author's purpose in writing this passage is mainly toB．
A．tell readers how to become a strong man
B．introduce the steps to resolve conflict
C．tell readers how to cool themselves off
D．state that arguments are useless in resolving conflict
34．When an argument happens，one of the things you'd better do is toA．
A．have a bath to cool yourself off
B．leaveand never meet the other again
C．find a friend for help
D．order the other to shut up
35．Which statement is NOT the author's attitude to resolving conflict？D
A．To admit one's own mistakes．
B．To apologize to the other．
C．To renew the relationship．
D．To attack the other．
分析 本文主要讲述了在人们的日常生活中不可避免会出现的矛盾和冲突，作者在文中就解决矛盾冲突的方法对读者进行了建议．
解答 33．B 写作目的题．根据文章内容If for you，the question of how to stop an argument is cooling yourself off and showing your ability to resolve conflict，follow these steps and begin the process of renewing your relationship．，主要讲述了在人们的日常生活中不可避免会出现的矛盾和冲突，作者在文中就解决矛盾冲突的方法对读者进行了建议．结合选项故选B
34．A细节题．根据文章内容，Remember not to leave the argument unresolved and walk away； just leave for long enough to cool off and get back together later有了矛盾冲突的时候不能不管不理，而是应该自我冷静一下，随后再来处理问题．结合选项，故选A
35．D 细节题．根据文章内容，Regardless of how badly your feelings are hurt or how much you want to discuss this problem with your other friends，refrain （克制） for the sake of your friendship…be open to the fact that you may be wrong…Say"I'm sorry"even if you think you're justified in what you said or did文中分别有提到重新恢复和朋友的关系、承认自己的错误以及向对方道歉．作者并不赞成攻击对方这种做法，结合选项，故选D
点评 本文是社会文化类阅读理解．做这类题材阅读理解时要求考生对文章通读一遍，做题时结合原文和题目有针对性的找出相关语句进行仔细分析，结合选项选出正确答案．推理判断题也是要在抓住关键句子的基础上合理的分析才能得出正确答案，切忌胡乱猜测，一定要做到有理有据．
