Question

I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our at?tention. And especially if it's given from the heart. When people are talking,there's no need to do anything but re?ceive them. Listen to what they're saying. Care about it. Most time caring about it is even more important than un?derstanding it. Most of us don't value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simply saying "I'm so sorry"? when someone is in pain.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand,we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen,they know we care.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the hand?kerchiefs,until I realized that passing a person a handker-  chief may be just another way to shut him down,to take i them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. i When they have cried all they need to cry,they find me there with them. , This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It . certainly went against everything I had been taught since I¹ was very young.  I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.

23. What does the author value most in the communica?tion with each other?

   A. Deep understanding.

   B. Saying "I'm sorry."

   C. Attention from heart.

   D. Doing nothing.

24. The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because         .

   A. she didn't get enough respect from others

   B. she was discouraged by being often interrupted

   C. people often told her their own opinions

   D. people couldn't understand her sad situation

 25.        If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying,you may         .

   A. hurt his feelings

   B. make him embarrassed

   C. encourage him to continue to cry

   D. stop him from letting out his sorrow

26. It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating,          .

   A. listening is a perfect way to respond to others

   B. people keep silent because they don't know the answer

   C. keeping silent means being too shy to speak

   D. it is easy to form the habit of listening silently

Answer 1

当别人向你倾诉时，是选择默默地倾听，还是用语言来安慰对方？哪一种更合适，作者给出了自己的答案。

23. C推理判断题。作者认为，"默默地用心倾听"效果更好。文章最后一句"But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words."也说明了作者的观点。

24. B细节理解题。文章第二段中的"…when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people."说明当别人打断她的讲述，说自己也有相似的经历的时候，她的痛苦似乎已经变成了"听话人"的经历，双方注意的焦点发生了转移，她无法再继续"倾诉"下去了。

25. D细节理解题。文章第三段中的"…passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down,to take them out of their experience of sadness."说明递给对方手绢擦拭眼泪的言外之意就是"停下来，不要再哭诉了"，这样哭诉的人的痛苦就得不到释放了。

26. A推理判断题。根据本文作者的论述可知，作者倾向于"倾听"而不是"安慰"。