Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.

   How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

 

Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.
Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
Why is Assertiveness important?
If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:
?Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.
?Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
?Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！
But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live
with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.
How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:
?Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "
?Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"
?Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "
? Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"
?Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.
【小题1】The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A．you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B．you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C．assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D．assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

【小题2】The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A．reach an agreement

B．insist on your point

C．keep your word

D．keep on fighting

【小题3】Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A．Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B．Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C．Making requirements directly and clearly.

D．Using your opinions instead of facts.

阅读理解

　　“Katy, get your books. It's time to go to school,”said Mum.

　　“But I don't like to,”Katy said.

　　“Well, go and have fun,”Mum told her.

　　When Katy got to school, some children asked her to play with them. She really wanted to, but she was too shy to say yes.

　　That night when Katy got home she wasn't happy, so she went straight to her room to play with her friend Jimmy the Tiger. She told Jimmy about her shyness and Jimmy told her,“Tomorrow at school, I will help you, and you will feel good about talking to other children.”

　　The next morning, after breakfast, she left home to catch a bus as usual, but this time with Jimmy. On the bus, Jimmy started telling Katy how he was going to help her to talk to other children. When the bus arrived at school, Katy jumped off and ran to her classroom to put her books away. Then she ran outside. But suddenly she stopped.

　　“I can't go over and ask to play with them!!!”

　　“Go !”said Jimmy.

　　As she was walking over to the children, a girl said to her,“Hey, Katy, do you want to play with us?”Katy said,“Yes, I would love to.”She was so happy. From that day on she loved going to school. And now she is happy to go to school alone, without Jimmy the Tiger.

(1) Katy usually went to school _______.

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(2) Katy did not like school at first because she was a ________ girl.

[　　]

(3) Katy's classmates asked her to ________ with them.

[　　]

(4) Who said“I can't go over and ask to play with them!”?

[　　]

(5) The story tells us ________

[　　]

A. Jimmy was a school boy

B. Katy went to school once a week

C. Jimmy helped Katy become confident

D. Katy's mum took her to school every day

It was 8:30 and I was lying in the sun, listening to my CD.

Then my mum came out. She wanted me to go out with her. She told me about this place called Give Kids the World. It’s a special place for 　35 to spend a vacation when a child had a life-threatening (致命的) illness. There were several jobs 　36 did there, including gift giving and ice-cream 　37　 . Mum said I would enjoy it, but I expected this was a 　38 job.

I got in the car and Mum drove to this place. There was a house in the village that we went into to do our work. I had to put some 　39 on the back of a golf cart (高尔夫球车). Mum told me we were going to take a toy and an ice-cream to every child in the village.

We got to the first house and I knocked on the door and shouted, “Gift Giving”, and a woman answered it. Sitting in the middle of the living room was a boy in a wheelchair. I gave him the gifts, and his face lighted up with 　40 . I walked out and thought, “That must be painful, unable to jump around.”

As I came into the second house with gifts, it seemed a little strange that the child didn’t 　41 me. Her mum said she was deaf and only partially (部分地) sighted, so I needed to go and stand in front of her. When I 　42 that, she became very excited and made a sign with her hands. Her mum told me this was the sign for 　“ 43 ”.

44 back in the cart, Mum told me these kids might not live to see tomorrow. Suddenly, I 　45 I should be more thankful that I don’t have these illnesses — that I was not in the same 　46 as these kids. I no longer wanted to be at home listening to my CDs. I would rather be doing this, maybe making a difference in these kids’ lives.

35. A. parents　 　　　　　　 B. families 　　　　 C. friends 　　　　　　　　 D. women

36. A. I 　　　　　　　　　　　　　 B. they　　　　　　　　　　　　 C. she 　　　　　　　　　　　 D. we

37. A. making 　　　　　　　　 B. showing　　　　　　　　　 C. selling　 　　　 D. serving

38. A. special 　　　　　　　　　 B. simple 　　 　　　　　 C. boring　　　　　　　 D. useless

39. A. gifts　　　　　　　　 B. balls　　　　　　　　　　　　 C. medicines　　　　　　　　 D. hats

40. A. joy　　　　　　　　　　　　 B. energy　　　　　　　 C. hope　　　　　　　　　　　 D. pride

41. A. welcome　　　　 B. notice　　　　　　　 C. like　　　　　　　　　　　　 D. thank

42. A. got 　　　　　　　　 B. made　　　　　　　　　　　 C. found　　　　　　　 D. did

43. A.　 thanks　　　　　　　　　 B. pleasure　　 　　　　　 C. goodbye　　　　　　　　　 D. love

44. A. Since　 　　　　 B. Though 　　　　 C. Once 　　　　　　　 D. But

45. A.　 believed　　　　　　　　 B. agreed　　　　　　　 C. remembered 　　　　　 D. realized

46. A.　 village B. position C. society D. environment