I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don’t value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying “I’m so sorry,” when someone is in pain.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about them. Eventually, she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs, until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down, to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.

1.What does the author value most in the communication with each other?

A．Deep understanding                     B．Saying “I’m Sorry”.

C．Attention from heart.                    D．Doing nothing.

2.The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because ______.

A．She didn’t get enough respect from others

B．she was discouraged by being often interrupted

C．people often told her their own opinions

D．people couldn’t understand her sad situation

3. If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying, you may ______.

A．hurt his feelings                        B．make him embarrassed

C．encourage him to continue to cry           D．stop him from letting out his sorrow

4. It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating, ______.

A．listening is a perfect way to respond to others

B．people keep silent because they don’t know the answer

C．keeping silent means being too shy to speak

D．it is easy to form the habit of listening silently

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I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our 36 , and especially if it’s given from the 37 . When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but 38 them. Just take them 39 . Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than 40 it.

One of my patients told me that when she 41 to tell her story, people often 42 to tell her that they had once had something just like what happened to her. Subtly, her pain became a story about themselves. 　43 she stopped talking to most people. It was just too 44 . We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the 45 of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.

I have ever learned to 46 to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾) 47 I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them 48 , to take them out of their 49 of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there 50 them.

This 51 thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been 52 since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too 53 to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more 54 to connect than the most well-intentioned(善意的) 55 .

36. A．introduction　　　　　 B．instruction　　　　　 C．attention　　　　　　 D．relaxation

37. A．head　　　　　　　　　　 B．memory　　　　　　 C．mind　　　　　　　　　 D．heart

38. A．talk to　　　　　　　　　 B．listen to　　　　　　　 C．object to(反对)　 D．stick to(坚持)

39. A．in 　　　　　　　　　　　 B．up　　　　　　　　　　　 C．off　　　　　　　　　　 D．away

40. A．denying(否认)　　　 B．remembering　　　 C．questioning　　　　 D．understanding

41. A．managed　　　　　　　 B．tried　　　　　　　　　 C．hoped　　　　　　　　 D．expected

42. A．encouraged　　　　　 B．interrupted　　　　　 C．discouraged　　　　 D．urged

43. A．Eventually　　　　　　 B．Immediately　　　　 C．Completely　　　　 D．Especially

44. A．impolite　　　　　　　　 B．meaningless　　　　 C．lonely　　　　　　　　 D．selfish

45. A．middle　　　　　　　　 B．focus　　　　　　　　 C．center　　　　　　　　 D．choice

46. A．respond　　　　　　　 B．compare　　　　　　 C．link　　　　　　　　　　 D．regret

47. A．unless　　　　　　　　　 B．if　　　　　　　　　　　 C．until　　　　　　　　　 D．when

48. A．down　　　　　　　　　 B．away　　　　　　　　　 C．in　　　　　　　　　　　 D．off

49. A．experiment　　　　　 B．mixture　　　　　　　 C．judgment　　　　　　 D．experience

50. A．with　　　　　　　　　　 B．against　　　　　　　 C．for　　　　　　　　　　 D．among

51. A．complex(费解的)　 B．simple　　　　　　　　 C．single D．complicated(复杂的)

52. A．mentioned　　　　　　 B．published　　　　　　 C．taught　　　　　　　　 D．proved

53. A．shy　　　　　　　　　　　 B．greedy　　　　　　　　 C．active　　　　　　　　 D．proud

54. A．strength　　　　　　　 B．energy　　　　　　　　 C．power　　　　　　　　 D．force

55. A．gestures　　　　　　　 B．praise　　　　　　　　 C．criticism　　　　　　 D．words

Just listen

    I suspect that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our  1, and especially if it’s given from the  2. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but  3them. Just take them   4. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than  5it.

One of my patients told me that when she  6to tell her story, people often  7to tell her that they had once had something just like that happen to her. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves.  8she stopped talking to most people. It was just too  9. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the  10of attention to ourselves. But when we listen, they know we care.

I have ever learned to  11to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the tissues(纸巾)  12I realized that passing a person a tissue may be just another way to shut them  13, to take them out of their  14of sadness and pain. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there  15them.

　　This  16thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been  17since I was very young at school. I thought people listened only because they were too  18to speak or did not know the answer. A loving silence often has far more  19to connect than the most well-intentioned  20.

1.A．introduction     B．instruction    C．attention      D．relaxation

2.A．head             B．memory         C．mind           D．heart

3.A．talk to          B．listen to      C．object to      D．stick to

4.A．in               B．up             C．off            D．away

5.A．denying          B．remembering    C．questioning    D．understanding

6.A．managed          B．tried          C．hoped          D．expected

7.A．encouraged       B．interrupted    C．discouraged    D．urged

8.A．Eventually       B．Immediately    C．Completely     D．Especially

9.A．impolite         B．meaningless    C．lonely         D．selfish

10.A．middle          B．focus          C．center         D．choice

11.A．respond         B．compare        C．link           D．regret

12.A．unless          B．if             C．until          D．when

13.A．down            B．away           C．in             D．off

14.A．experiment      B．mixture        C．judgment       D．experience

15.A．with            B．against        C．for            D．among

16.A．complex         B．simple         C．complicated    D．single

17.A．mentioned       B．published      C．taught         D．proved

18.A．shy             B．greedy         C．active         D．proud

19.A．strength        B．energy         C．power          D．force

20.A．gestures        B．praise         C．criticism      D．words

I think that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most 36 thing we ever give to each other is our attention (注意力). Especially if it’s 37  from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do 38  but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times  39   about it is even more important than understanding it.
One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story, people often 40     to tell her that they once had something just 41  that happened to her. Her pain became a story about 42 . So, finally she stopped 43  to most people because she just felt too lonely. When we interrupt what someone is 44  to let them know that we understand, we 45  the  focus of attention to ourselves. But if we just 46 , they know we care. Many people with cancer can talk about the relief (宽慰) of having someone just listen.
I have 47  learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. I 48  that passing a person a tissue (面巾纸) may be just another 49  to shut them down and take them out of their experience of 50 . Now I just listen. When they have 51  all they need to cry, they find me there with them.
This 52  thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very 53 . I thought people listened only 54   they were too shy to speak or did not know the 55 . A loving silence often has far more power to heal than words.

I suppose that the most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention. And especially if it’s given from the heart. When people are talking, there’s no need to do anything but receive them. Listen to what they’re saying. Care about it. Most times caring about it is even more important than understanding it. Most of us don’t value ourselves or our love enough to know this. It has taken me a long time to believe in the power of simple saying “I’m so sorry,” when someone is in pain.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted to tell her that they once had something just like that happening to them. Her pain became a story about them. Eventually, she stopped talking to most people. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care.

I have even learned to respond to someone crying by just listening. In the old days I used to reach for the handkerchiefs, until I realized that passing a person a handkerchief may be just another way to shut him down, to take them out of their experience of sadness. Now I just listen. When they have cried all they need to cry, they find me there with them.

This simple thing has not been that easy to learn. It certainly went against everything I had been taught since I was very young. I thought people listened only because they were too shy to speak or did not know the answer. But now I know that a loving silence often has far more power to heal than the kindest words.

56. What does the author value most in the communication with each other?

A. Deep understanding        B. Saying “I’m Sorry”.

C. Attention from heart.        D. Doing nothing.

57. The woman patient stopped telling her story to most people because ______.

A. She didn’t get enough respect from others

B. she was discouraged by being often interrupted

C. people often told her their own opinions

D. people couldn’t understand her sad situation

58. If you hand a handkerchief to someone crying, you may ______.

A. hurt his feelings                  B. make him embarrassed

C. encourage him to continue to cry     D. stop him from letting out his sorrow

59. It can be inferred from the passage that while communicating, ______.

A. listening is a perfect way to respond to others

B. people keep silent because they don’t know the answer

C. keeping silent means being too shy to speak

D. it is easy to form the habit of listening silently