Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.

    Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.

    Why is Assertiveness important?

     If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:

•Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.

•Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.

•Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?

     Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！

      But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live

 with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive

 response  (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.

   How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:

 •Use "I" statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. "I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption." instead of "You're always interrupting my stories ! "

 •Use facts, not opinions. "Did you know that shirt has a hole?" instead of　"You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?"

 •Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. "I get angry when he breaks his promises. " instead of "He makes me angry. "

 • Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. "Will  you please?" instead of　'Would you mind．．．?" or "Why don't you．．．?"

•Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.

1.The writer probably agrees that­­­____________.

A. you should consider others' response before you act assertively

B. you should be assertive if you want to get good marks

C. assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.

D. assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings

2.The expression "hold yourｇround" probably means “_________________”

A. reach an agreement

B. insist on your point

C. keep your word

D. keep on fighting

3.Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?

A. Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.

B. Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.

C. Making requirements directly and clearly.

D. Using your opinions instead of facts.

 

If you don’t know the word, you can _________ in the dictionary.

    A. look it after      B. look it up        C. look for it   　　   D. look at it

 

If you don’t know the word, you can _________ in the dictionary.

    A. look it after   B. look it up   C. look for it   　　D. look at it

 

单词拼写

1. The newspaper is full of________________ (广告). I don’t want to read it.

2. Yao Ming’s ___________(高度) makes him stand out in many people.

3. Betty is one of the __________(苗条的) girls in her class.

4. If you don’t know what to do, I will give you some _________(忠告).

5. English is one of the most important ____________(语言) in the world.

6. Sam is weak in Maths, but he is good at ______________(地理).

7． ----What do we call students in 12^th grade?----We call them____________.

8．----Why don’ you like listening to this song?----Because it is________now.

9．-----Wu Jingyu and Lu Haojie are very famous players in Suzhou.

-----Yes,I admire them very much and they are my_____.

10.---What do you think of Amy?

-----She is very_____because she often shares things witth others.

　　

Letter A

Dear Rose,

I like your programmes very much. I’m now writing to ask you something about American social customs (社交习惯). My American friends want me to join them in their dinner party. I am very happy and have decided to go, but I’m a little worried about it, too. The social customs in my country are very different from here, so I’m afraid of making mistakes.

Should I bring a present, such as sweets or flowers? Should I arrive on time or a little late? At the dinner table, how can I know which fork (叉子) or knife to use? How can I let the family know that I’m thankful for their kindness?

　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　Wang Lin

Letter B

Dear Wang Lin,

It’s a good idea to bring a small present when you go to a dinner party. Flowers are always nice, or you may bring a bottle of wine (葡萄酒) if you know that your friends drink it.

You should arrive on time or five to ten minutes late. Don’t get there early. If you’re going to be more than fifteen minutes late, you should call and tell them.

Try to be free at the dinner table. If you don’t know about choosing the right fork or knife, just watch the other people, and follow them. If you still have no idea of what to do, ask the person next to you.

If you like the food, say so. Of course, you’ll thank them for the meal and for their kindness. It’s also a good idea to send a thank-you card the day after.

　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　 Rose

1. Wang Lin wants to _______.

A. make friends with Rose　　　　　　

B. know some social customs for a dinner party

C. make her friends happy　　　　　　

D. give her friends a surprise

2. Rose is possibly ________.

A. a good housewife　　　　　　　　　 B. a TV hostess (主持人)

C. a member of the dinner party　　　　 D. a friend of Wang Lin’s

3. If you’re asked to a dinner party but not sure about what to bring as a present, it’s good to bring _______.

　 A. some fruits　　　　　　　　　　　　 B. a bottle of wine

　 C. some flowers　　　　　　　　　　　 D. a knife and fork

4. Which of the following is NOT proper (适当的) for joining in a dinner party?

　 A. Get there 15 minutes earlier.　　　　　 B. Make yourself at home.

　 C. Follow others to use forks and knives.　 D. Thank your friends for the meal.

5. From the letters we’ve learned that it’s very _____ to know something about American social customs.

　 A. difficult　　 B. friendly　　　 C. enjoyable　　　 D. helpful