Sometimes, even the best friends have fights. They disagree with each other and begin to argue. Sometimes, they even stop talking to each other. What can be done to help the two friends make up? Finding a good friend who knows both of them very well to be a peacemaker is a good way. Maybe one day you will be a peacemaker for your good friends. Here are some useful communication strategies for you to use.
State your feelings clearly but don’t criticize them. Begin with “I feel” instead of “You always…”.
Don’t stop or finish the other person’s sentences.
Listen carefully to what the other person is saying. Try to see the other person’s side of the disagreement.
Look the other person in the eyes when you are talking.
Ask questions to make sure that you understand them.
Repeat the other person’s ideas as you understand them.
Never
put anyone down. Saying things like “You’re stupid” makes communication difficult.
Try to find a solution that makes the two friends happy. Never decide who is right and who is wrong. Instead, help them to find their own “win-win” solution. A “win-win” solution allows each of them to feel good. In this way, their friendship can be continued.
【小题1】Which of the following is the suitable language for a peacemaker?
| A．“I feel …” | B．“You always…” | C．“You are stupid.” | D．“You are wrong.” |
【小题2】How should the peacemaker behave when talking with the two friends?
| A．Stop the other person’s sentences in time. |
| B．Repeat his own ideas to make himself understood. |
| C．Listen to the other person carefully and ask some questions. |
| D．Don’t look at the other when you are talking. |
【小题3】What does the phrase “put anyone down” mean in the article?
【小题4】How do you understand a “win-win” solution?
| A．It is a way that helps make new friends. |
| B．It is a way that makes both people pleased. |
| C．It is a way that tells who is right and who is wrong. |
| D．It is a way to understand a person. |
