Some children are born bosses. They have a need to make decisions, manage their environment and lead rather than follow. Too much rule in the hands of the young isn’t healthy for children or the family. Family expert John Taylor says, “Children have secret feelings of weakness. They are always trying to feel safe. ”It’s the parents’ duty－not the child’s－to provide safety.
When a “boss child’’ doesn’t learn limits（限制）at home, troubles will appear outside the family. The child may have trouble obeying（遵守）teachers, for example, or keeping friends. It can be pretty lonely as the top dog if no one likes your ruling ways.
Bossy kids are often unusually bright. Their parents need to be especially careful to manage them. Bossy kids usually work more on the mother. It’s important for both parents to know their child’s weakness, to agree on key rules and to back each up.
Even as you try to be kind—to a point—don’t give up your parental ruling post. Instead, stand your ground by using body language that tells your child who the boss is.
Good manners are important to family. Show a child by example how to ask for something rather than shout orders. Try asking your child to do things that are not too difficult. Then reward（奖励）him with a hug（拥抱）and words such as “Thank you. I like it when you listen to me.” Over time good manners will become associated（联结）with pleasure.
【小题1】Is the passage mainly about how to teach children?
【小题2】Do boss children usually feel lonely or have a lot of friends?
【小题3】Which of the parents should know their child’s weakness?
【小题4】Why is it important to teach children good manners?
【小题5】What should parents be like to teach a boss child well?

Some children are born bosses. They have a need to make decisions, manage their environment and lead rather than follow. Too much rule in the hands of the young isn’t healthy for children or the family. Family expert John Taylor says, “Children have secret feelings of weakness. They are always trying to feel safe. ”It’s the parents’ duty－not the child’s－to provide safety.

When a “boss child’’ doesn’t learn limits（限制）at home, troubles will appear outside the family. The child may have trouble obeying（遵守）teachers, for example, or keeping friends. It can be pretty lonely as the top dog if no one likes your ruling ways.

Bossy kids are often unusually bright. Their parents need to be especially careful to manage them. Bossy kids usually work more on the mother. It’s important for both parents to know their child’s weakness, to agree on key rules and to back each up.

    Even as you try to be kind—to a point—don’t give up your parental ruling post. Instead, stand your ground by using body language that tells your child who the boss is.

    Good manners are important to family. Show a child by example how to ask for something rather than shout orders. Try asking your child to do things that are not too difficult. Then reward（奖励）him with a hug（拥抱）and words such as “Thank you. I like it when you listen to me.” Over time good manners will become associated（联结）with pleasure.

1.Is the passage mainly about how to teach children?

2.Do boss children usually feel lonely or have a lot of friends?

3.Which of the parents should know their child’s weakness?

4.Why is it important to teach children good manners?

5.What should parents be like to teach a boss child well?

Friends are important to the children. Research shows that children who have no friends can suffer from difficulties later in life. Friendship provides children with more than just fun. In making friends, children learn how to get in touch with the others and solve problems. Having friends even does good to children’s study for they can help each other during the class.
If the parents care about their children whether they made many friends，what matters is that the child is comfortable and happy with his friends. Parents need to understand the steps children take in building friendships. First of all, be a friend to your child. Good friendships start at home. Children begin to develop the necessary ability to go out and meet others through getting with their parents. Greet the child warmly and let him know you are glad to see him. Children learn a lot from how their parents stay with them and other people.
Teach children how to solve conflicts(争端). Being able to work out conflicts is an important skill in getting along with others. If parents know the children have a conflict, let them work it out on their own. Only step in if it is really necessary, for example, an argument is getting physical.
Give children chances to practice staying together. Have children play games that require team work and group problem solving skills. For example, races are fun and provide plenty of practice in teamwork. “In what ways didn’t you work well together? What might you do differently next time?” For these ideas, see books such as Games Book by Terry Orlick, Energizers by Carol Apacki, and Team-Building Activities for Every Group by Alanna Jones.
Encourage children to show thanks to the others. The parents can encourage children to do this by setting the example for them.
【小题1】According to the article, if one child has no friend, he will               .

Friends are important to the children. Research shows that children who have no friends can suffer from difficulties later in life. Friendship provides children with more than just fun. In making friends, children learn how to get in touch with the others and solve problems. Having friends even does good to children’s study for they can help each other during the class.

If the parents care about their children whether they made many friends，what matters is that the child is comfortable and happy with his friends. Parents need to understand the steps children take in building friendships. First of all, be a friend to your child. Good friendships start at home. Children begin to develop the necessary ability to go out and meet others through getting with their parents. Greet the child warmly and let him know you are glad to see him. Children learn a lot from how their parents stay with them and other people.

Teach children how to solve conflicts(争端). Being able to work out conflicts is an important skill in getting along with others. If parents know the children have a conflict, let them work it out on their own. Only step in if it is really necessary, for example, an argument is getting physical.

Give children chances to practice staying together. Have children play games that require team work and group problem solving skills. For example, races are fun and provide plenty of practice in teamwork. “In what ways didn’t you work well together? What might you do differently next time?” For these ideas, see books such as Games Book by Terry Orlick, Energizers by Carol Apacki, and Team-Building Activities for Every Group by Alanna Jones.

Encourage children to show thanks to the others. The parents can encourage children to do this by setting the example for them.

1.According to the article, if one child has no friend, he will               .

A．have some troubles in the future           B．worry about everything in the future

C．not know the importance of making friends    D．not find anybody to help him

2.Friendship can be helpful to the children EXCEPT              .

A．providing a lot of fun                     B．getting in touch with others

C．solving the problems                     D．helping to trick in the exams

3.The writer’s purpose of writing the article is to               .

A．tell what parents should do to help the children make friends

B．show friends even does good to children’s study during the class

C．tell the parents need to understand the steps of children’s friendship

D．show how important the friendship is to the children

4.When the children disagree with each other, the parents should                 .

A．let them fight with each other until they find who is the winner

B．do nothing to the children and believe in their abilities

C．let them work it out by themselves and help if necessary

D．talk with them and try to find good ways to stay together

Some children are born bosses. They have a need to make decisions, manage their environment and lead rather than follow. Too much rule in the hands of the young isn’t healthy for children or the family. Family expert John Taylor says, “Children have secret feelings of weakness. They are always trying to feel safe. ”It’s the parents’ duty-not the child’s-to provide safety.
When a “boss child’’ doesn’t learn limits（限制）at home, troubles will appear outside the family. The child may have trouble obeying（遵守）teachers, for example, or keeping friends. It can be pretty lonely as the top dog if no one likes your ruling ways.
Bossy kids are often unusually bright. Their parents need to be especially careful to manage them. Bossy kids usually work more on the mother. It’s important for both parents to know their child’s weakness, to agree on key rules and to back each up.
Even as you try to be kind—to a point—don’t give up your parental ruling post. Instead, stand your ground by using body language that tells your child who the boss is.
Good manners are important to family. Show a child by example how to ask for something rather than shout orders. Try asking your child to do things that are not too difficult. Then reward（奖励）him with a hug（拥抱）and words such as “Thank you. I like it when you listen to me.” Over time good manners will become associated（联结）with pleasure.

1. 1.

   Is the passage mainly about how to teach children?

2. 2.

   Do boss children usually feel lonely or have a lot of friends?

3. 3.

   Which of the parents should know their child’s weakness?

4. 4.

   Why is it important to teach children good manners?

5. 5.

   What should parents be like to teach a boss child well?